• Fantasy and Reality 21.05.2016 Comments Off on I love you can be true and not mean what you think – okay

    Those three words – “I love you” – to some they are everything, to some they are nothing.

    Look, many people have some narrow definition of what these words should mean when they are said. For me, “I love you” does not mean I love only you, and you are my everything now and forever. Sure they could mean that – and maybe some people want some kind of fairy tail love that embodies all those things. Maybe I might even feel that way right now, and tomorrow, but lets be honest. Loving each other is generally a variable thing.

  • dating mistakes, Fantasy and Reality 04.10.2012 Comments Off on Romance in TV and Movies bad for relationships

    Just read an interesting article about TV and movies giving bad expectations for relationships – and causing people to expect more, and want to be single the more they indulge in the romantic televisions and movie fantasies. Of course this makes sense to me, and I am glad to see another author bringing this, and having a recent study to shed some more light on this subject. enchanted-movie-poster

  • Fantasy and Reality 09.01.2010 Comments Off on 10 things good boysfriends don’t ask – depends

    I found an article today that a woman wrote, saying these 10 things a good boyfriend will not ask of his mate. I have to disagree. At first I disagreed completely and was a little miffed about her way of writing, but after a second read, I have to say, that these things really depend upon the people involved, what kind of relationship the two have, and other factors in the daily lives of those involved. Perhaps in some relationships her suggestions may be true, but I find them totally out of sink with reality for many situations. If she doesn’t want these things in her life, that is fine, but writing as a dating editor I think it is in bad taste to make such a blanket statement that if someone asks you to do laundry or plan a vacation that that makes them a bad boyfriend. Get real.

  • Dating Advice, dating mistakes, Dating Technology, Fantasy and Reality, The Dating Game 26.06.2009 Comments Off on some of our dating programming exposed in a recent movie

    We rented the movie “he’s just not that into you”, the gf and I had a kind of in home movie date and didn’t expect much but a few laughs. We had some good laughs with this flick, and I enjoyed seeing them expose some of the dating myths and realities in this movie.

  • Dating Advice, Fantasy and Reality 21.06.2009 Comments Off on Dating, sex and the STD talk

    I have had the STD talk with perhaps 50 different girls I have dated over the years, and I have talked with lots of girls, guys and couples about STD information, risks and awareness. I think the talk has gotten easier over the years, but it is still an issue that causes a bit of anxiety and pause. I often wonder what the other person will say.will react, what they know, and if they will be honest with me as well. It’s never easy going into this talks, but I believe it is of the utmost importance early in the relationship, while dating, and before things lead to sex.

  • Dating Stories, Fantasy and Reality 18.06.2009 Comments Off on A threesome that never happened

    One night when I went out with an ex girlfriend and her friend, I thought we may end up in a threesome sex adventure before the night was over. Things started well, they both knew we were all relatively single, all of us were dating around, and we all got along. They were good friends and comfortable flirting with each other and me. I knew they were both bisexual to some degree and they both appeared to enjoy my company, so we went to a few places around town that sort of turned into a three way date.